It sounds like your relationship lacks open and honest communication. This causes confusion. Confusion causes anxiety and depression, which cause unhealthy thinking patterns to take hold. So why don’t you both sit down and clearly define what this relationship means exactly. Some questions to clarify are: what are your needs and desires? What positive and negative contributions have you both made? What unrealistic expectations are there? What are the unmet needs? Where is this relationship headed? Write down the answers, and both of you sign the document. Putting things in writing makes them concrete and easier to accept and deal with. Once this is done you may have more direction.
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