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Hello, thanks for having the courage to bring up this sensitive topic. Remember this: women come in all sizes and shapes. Marital happiness doesn’t depend upon your body type. Would you agree that there are plenty of happily married thin women out there? Yes, it’s true! Believing that men love only one body type, is a distorted way of thinking. Tying your worth as a wife to just body image is also a distorted and unhealthy way of thinking. Marriage involves friendship, a shared meaning in life, mutual compassion, as well as intimacy. Just focus on being healthy, both physically and emotionally. There’s a lot more to you than physical body type. Your personality, character, skills, talents, abilities are all part of the whole picture, which add up to a beautiful you.

Sometimes the unknown causes us fear. We tend to think in the worst possible way, imaging pain and rejection. Remember, these are just fearful thoughts, not reality. Thoughts can be brushed aside. Don’t pay attention to these fears, because that’s all that they are, they are not based on any logic. Sex is a natural and good thing between married people. It’s important to maintain realistic expectations as well. All marriages have ups and downs, and each new life phase such as taking on domestic responsibilities or pregnancy can seem daunting at first. Just keep reminding yourself that you are a capable young adult with lots of talents and skills – think positively about yourself.